Here’s a small little reminder that I hope will always benefit myself first and foremost, and of course all of you as well. It is the beautiful lesson that the Prophet ﷺ captured so eloquently in his character. The way in which he used to pray for every single human being in our ummah. Every single one. Including those who were considered enemies and hated the Prophet ﷺ with every inch in their bodies. He prayed for the ones who hurt and belittled him, and the ones who wished the him the worst. He prayed for them regardless. Isn’t it insane how nowadays, it’s so out of the norm to ever pray for a person who has hurt you? Instead our first reaction is to lash out in an effort to protect our reputations. Our ego’s become so inflated that we do our best to make the person look awful in return for the pain that they’ve caused. We cry out for the wrong that’s been done to us, and instead of wishing that Allah Azwajjal guides them, we pray for them to be broken. We expose and hurt them back. We crave the sweetness of revenge. How hard have our hearts become? Our hatred for the ones who hurt us, does it benefit the heart? Let’s ask ourselves, what would our beloved Prophet ﷺ do?
As I was thinking about this, I was left in awe. We’ve been so consumed with praying for ourselves and the ones we love, that we forget how praying for the ones you dislike can often soften the heart like no other. When the Prophet ﷺ had his face slashed during the battle of Uhud, he supplicated, “اللَّهُمَّ اغْفِرْ لِقَوْمِي فَإِنَّهُمْ لا يَعْلَمُونَ” ( O Allah, forgive my people for they do not know.) Isn’t that amazing? That even after someone had hurt him, he’d still prayed for Allah Azwajjal to forgive them. People would even ask the Prophet ﷺ to make dua’s that went against his enemies, but time and time again he refused and would only pray that they would be saved from the fire.
There is wisdom behind this. That with forgiveness, we are doing more good for ourselves and in actuality, saving our hearts from harm. The disease of hatred and jealousy can be taken away when we pray for that person’s well-being. That heavy feeling that you always feel is wearing you down, ask yourself what’s consuming it. Free yourself from hurt and pray for them. Pray 2 nafl salat and then ask Allah Azwajjal to make everything easy on them. Rememeber that everyone is going through something. The difference is the way people choose to express their hurt. There is so much good in people, but unfortunately, pain is inevitable.
With all of these thoughts, I couldn’t help but ponder in the car on my way home. I didn’t realize how much work I really needed to do in order to be a better person. That I really need to do more during this month in hopes that Allah Azwajjal would heal me. I didn’t even realize how quickly Ramadan was flying by until I realized this would be my 8th post. It’s just insane. There’s a lot of re-evaluation that needs to be done with not only what it was that I was praying for, but how sincere my dua’s were.
How immersed am I when I’m calling out to Allah Azwajjal? How focused am I? Who was I praying for and why did I want Allah Azwajjal to answer my duas? How would my dua’s be helpful for me in both this life and the next? More importantly, how was I to better utilize my time effectively so I could make sure the next three weeks weren’t being wasted? There were so many questions running through my mind and it was a little overwhelming, but Alhamdulillah for Ramadan. This is the best time to self-reflect on our actions and figure out what our hearts need the most. So forgive others and forgive yourself. Pray for the people you love, and the one’s that you aren’t too fond of. Let’s try to make the best out of what’s left of Ramadan. After all, this could be our last.
I pray that Allah Azwajjal accepts our fasts and fixes our hearts so that we are closer to Him even afer this month is finished. I pray that we always pray for others, and that Allah Azwajjal gives us hearts filled with contentment. May we always remember Him through both the good and hard times.